If a cop is stopped in a parking lot, is it wrong to ask for directions? How do you approach them to ask

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PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

As long as he/she is not busy dealing with someone else you can ask. Just say, "Excuse me, but can you help me? I need directions." and then tell him/her where you want to go.

Deston Elite Profile
Deston Elite answered

Of course not, as long as he's not busy. Race or sex doesn't matter. Just start walking over to them, wave your hand and make sure you look like you need to ask them something. Be sure you make them aware you have a question before you get to the car so as not to frighten them.

dragonfly forty-six Profile

If it's an emergency. If there are other options I would go with that. If you were completely lost, late at night, no gas stations or no map to get directions, then yes.

Out of laziness or convenience, no. Asking a police officer for directions would be my last resort.

My best friend comes from a police officer family. Unless it pertains to their job in some way, they didn't like to be bothered. Even though they might be parked in a car, you never know what they could be doing. If however they were standing around talking then we would talk to them. If they were on the job, no I wouldn't bother them.

I remember a bunch of times sitting in a car next to her family member(s) and they wouldn't even acknowledge us in the car because of concentrating on their job. They are listening to dispatch, looking things up on the computer, observing cars and people behaviors around them and driving. I wouldn't want to disturb that process for directions.

Also when addressing any law enforcement always use "sir" and "ma'am".

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dragonfly forty-six
I agree. It's so awkward that I just couldn't do it unless an emergency. I usually don't think in an emergency, I just do. So, I'd probably put on my emergency lights. Make eye contact, and see what their reaction is. If I was ignored I would sit in car with emergency lights until their curiosity was peaked enough to ask me my business. I would remain in car with engine off until approached. Keeping my hands visible at all times. No sudden movements no digging around my lap. Nothing suspicious. Very minimal movement until the officer ascertained my threat. Depending on how he felt he might call for another car for back up if alone. It's just too much trouble just for directions unless a dire emergency.
SuperFly Original
True. And the time I did ask for directions, my iphone with GPS died, it was like 12am, and I was completely lost on my bike. So, I am sure I fit that category. We do some reckless things when desperate so Im glad he had an understanding and helped. Even though I looked nuts on a bike at 3am, sweating my ass off, out of breath, and I cant even remember what it was I said! I think I asked for directions and he offered to ride me back.

The way he radioed me in sounded slightly worrying, thats why I was not sure if I angered him. And it was a pretty big parking lot, I had decent walk right towards him! I probably just looked out of place I suppose.

Thanks for the reply.
SuperFly Original
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Ty Hibb Profile
Ty Hibb answered

Sometimes how you approach successfully depends on your race, culture, or ethnicity. Some police are having increasing concerns about dealing with the public in light of what has been happening to them.

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SuperFly Original
Yeah but if its set in stone they should have an order of which this request is done. Or, it should be illegal. Which Is what I came to ask. --- Of course It could be a rare thing, and in that case its simply something strange that most dont do. I just came to find out! thought id mention it.
Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

You would ask them just like you would ask anyone .. "Can you help me, I'm lost" .. Or "I'm looking for ???  Street".

Never any harm in asking .. If they can help they will, if they can't  they will tell you where to get help.  No need to be afraid to ask.

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K. B. Baldwin commented
CHP helpful. Once had a flat tire, and was changing by flashlight. CHP stopped and shined his headlights on me so I could finish without the flashlight.
2. Was in uniform hitchhiking home. CHP picked me up and took me about 5 miles to where there was a better place to get a ride. His parting words - "You never saw me'".
3. Car broke down and I was walking home in the dark. CHP stopped and drove me to where I could phone home for a ride (This was before cell phones),
SuperFly Original
Yeah they sound like good police to have. Ive had similar experiences in Lakewood, got driven home ect. but I did get 250$ dollar fine for a curfew once on the other side. And the encounter on that particular night was pretty terrible to say the least. There are some really good, and some really bad cops out there. Whoever the cop was on that night, Id gladly report his ass and let his office know how disgusting his verbal interaction was with me and my sister, If I remembered his name.

But ive had more good encounters then I did negative ones. Which is why I again, do not label people. It wouldnt be logical.
SuperFly Original
I guess just be polite, and hope you don't bump into Lieutenant Jim Dangle!

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